I did it....I told Eleanor that this relationship is not promising and to have a think about the whole circumstances...She didn't reply in any way...Am I doing the right thing here? Was she crying? Or is she still crying now? I don't know!!! I don't even know what she is thinking or has she read the message? This is the whole communication wall right in front of me, I cannot see or hear anything.... I am scared. I wish I am a Jumper, space travel will make life so much easier...
My mind is full of questions about love after that... What is love? Is love a science? If it is, I must be rather bad at it. Imagine, physics, biology, chemistry and LOVE. It doesn't sound right, does it? OR em.... in love, we have love engineering, medical love, etc... Love engineering? Since when we can manipulate love?
I had a look on a dictionary definition of science:
science |ˈsīəns|
noun
the intellectual and practical activity encompassing the systematic study of the structure and behavior of the physical and natural world through observation and experiment
Is love an intellectual and practical activity?
-Intellectual? Yes. It relates to us which hopefully all are intellect.
-Practical? Obviously. We are practicing it throughout our lives.
-Activity? Well, this is a questionable point, love is always interpreted as a feeling rather than an activity (We are talking real love here...), but Scott Peck, a renowned psychologist in the field of applied psychology mentioned that love is a combination of the "concern for the spiritual growth of another" and simple narcissism. Therefore, love is an activity rather than just a simple feeling.
Does love encompass a systematic study of the structure and behavior of the physical and natural world through observation and experiment?
Definitely not!! It is not a study of the natural world, it is only a study of interpersonal relationship at most. The major reason lies in the very last of the statement — through observation and experiment. Observation is utterly possible, in fact, we are always observing, e.g. your friends' relationship, your parents' relationship and chiefly all sort of relationships in those romantic films. However, experimenting a relationship is out of the question, not matter how augmented and exaggerated those romantic films are, they do at least get a point for manifesting how unpredictable relationships are. There are just way too many variation in one's interpretation on love started form one's birth, and that is why LOVE IS NOT A SCIENCE.
Nevertheless, what is the science of love?
Biologically, love is interpreted as a mammalian drive, like hunger or thirst, and it is divided into 3 partly overlapping stages: Lust, Attraction, Attachment. The first two stages are temporary and consist of sexual desire and romantic desire respectively. These two stages would only last for at most 3-4 years altogether, and the most precious long-term commitment is all counted on the third stage which promotes the relationship lasting for decades. The feelings of being in love in all stages are all due to various secretions of chemicals and hormones. I personally don't believe in these biological observations, I don't think love is that simple, it should be more than chemicals and hormones, or artificial love could possibly be feasible. That would be really freaky...
Final thoughts:
If love were a science and it were as complicated as it seems, then scientists (or lovist) would very likely develop tons of formulae of love. Then, love would no longer be love, it would be just a bunch of cold sciences.
